10 Reminders for a blissful 2020!
It’s hard to imagine that we’ve come to the end of 2019 and a decade for that matter. It seems like it was just the other day I was writing down my intentions for 2019. When I look back at the year and the decade, 2018 and 2019 were years of immense growth. Those are the years that broke down anything that didn’t have a strong foundation and helped us build things that were more worth our while. We kept dropping a lot of things that were stifling our growth; mindsets, perspectives, friendships and fvck boys.
It was difficult but we came out stronger, wiser and with clarity. Clarity that has helped us know what we want and what we don’t want.
While it’s easier to mention all the things we’re cutting off in 2020, I think there’s equal importance in mentioning the things that worked, helped us grow and moved us into a space of love.
Below we have a list of reminders to carry with you into 2020!
1. Communication is key
I’m putting this first because I feel a lot of issues can be solved easily if we stopped playing around and just communicated. Your friends don’t know you’re upset with them for missing out on your birthday, because you made it seem fine. Your partner doesn’t know you’re uncomfortable with an idea because you didn’t speak up.
No one absolutely no one knows what you want except you. No one knows how you feel unless you speak up. The people closest to you may have an idea but with how often people change their minds you can never be too sure. This world is a better place when you start to communicate how you feel instead of keeping your feelings locked in and holding people to a certain expectation that they don’t know you’ve set for them.
Also please ensure that you are communicating well, have an open mind and state what you want to clearly and effectively.
2. You are worthy!
You are worthy of whatever it is that you want. Do you want a new job? To follow a certain career path? To be in a loving relationship? The first step to achieving what you want is believing you are worthy of it. Say it with me, I am worthy. I am worthy of a fulfilling job! I am worthy of living a life beyond my wildest dreams! I am worthy of love! Whatever it is that you want, remind yourself that you are worthy and watch the miracles unfold. Listen to I am worthy by India Arie if you need further encouragement.
However, you need to ensure that your actions match your words. Yes you are worthy of love but you continue to stay in a situationship. Yes! You are worthy of a fulfilling career but do you know what it is that will fulfill you?
3. Another woman’s beauty is not the absence of my own.
Another woman’s anything does not mean you lack in that department. Stop focusing on what other people have and work on yourself.
4. One step at a time, there’s no need to rush.
You are always at the right place at the right time. Time is a human construct anyway so do things at your own pace. There is no set time in which you have to have figured things out. Free yourself from the burden of human made check-points and take time to create things that are meaningful to you.
5. Life is better when you have fun.
You glow different, you attract more and you’re having a good time while you’re at it. Be mindful of the fun you’re inviting into your life, make sure it is something that is contributing to your well-being.
6. Compromise and settling are 2 different things
Compromise – an agreement made between 2 people or groups in which each side gives up some of the things so that both sides are happy in the end.
Settling- The act of accepting something that is not exactly what you want but is the best that is available.
This world is abundant and we’re here to get exactly what we want.
7. Nothing good comes from staying in a bad situation
Can we please stop glorifying suffering? It’s not fair to yourself, because you start telling yourself that the world is a place where in order to get something good, you need to persevere through shitty situations to get what you want. Half the fun in getting what you want is enjoying the journey.
8. Just Do it!
9. There’s plenty of space for you to grow.
Imagine if Rihanna didn’t start Fenty because of the existing make up brands. Imagine if artists didn’t make music because of how much music was already out there. Imagine if authors didn’t write books because they believed the story was already told. The only barrier to your success is your mindset.
10. You are ENOUGH!